Sandler Training – In Sales, It’s Not About You. . . It Never Was

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In Sales, It’s Not About You. . . It Never Was

I would like to give you three statements that are true:

1. People tend to like people who are like themselves.
2. People tend to trust people they like.
3. People tend buy from people they trust.

Therefore, I can make the following statement:

• People tend to buy from people who are like themselves.

The skill of bonding and rapport is at the heart of high performance sales and those who do it well go to the bank often. If we can understand how rapport is established not just consciously but also subconsciously, we can gain a tremendous competitive advantage.

Understand Your Prospect’s Behavior Style

There are four distinct behavioral styles people operate from when interacting with others. They are:
Director: Competitive, short & to the point, decisive, control, results, get on with it already . . .
Interactor: Social, energetic, likable, center of attention, recognition, you guys are awesome! . . .
Stabilizer: Calm, caring, deliberate, concerned, dislike conflict, let’s all just get along . . .
Calculator: Facts, analytical, detailed, process, rules, research, it must be right . . .

Your prospects will interact with you from one of the four positions. To gain rapport, adjust your behavior to their style and they will subconsciously start to like you. For example:
• Talking to a “D” be brief, don’t engage in small talk, drive to the result, end early.
• Talking to an “I”, be energized, talk about your vacation, like them, don’t cut them off.
• Talking to an “S”, be non-threatening, don’t push, be empathetic, show genuine concern.
• Talking to a “C”, be thorough, give facts, be patient, be detailed, don’t tell them they’re wrong.

Understand Your Prospect’s Communication Style (Neurolinguistic Programming or NLP)

People communicate through words, body language, and tonality. Most don’t realize that words typically make up only 7% of the total communication package. Body language accounts for 55% and tonality 38%. In sales, it is how your prospect communicates to you that is important. Whatever their communication methodology is, you are to embrace it, adapt to it, and reflect it back to your prospect. How do they sit, are they leaning forward or back, are they talking fast or slow, are their eyes looking at you or away. Whatever they are doing, you subtly do the same thing and then magically, the prospect starts to like you and they don’t know why.

Understanding Transactional Analysis (I’m Okay, You’re Okay)

You wonder what the prospect thinks of you before you walk in? You are pushy, aggressive, arrogant, sneaky, insincere, dangerous . . . I didn’t come up with those words. My clients did when I asked them to describe the typical salesperson. This accurately describes the stigma salespeople work against. So, if you act like a salesperson (“We are the best!”), you will be treated like one (“I need to think it over.”). Instead, do what psychological research has proven to be true when it comes to establishing rapport with people. Be genuinely humble, don’t have all the answers, be vulnerable, struggle a little bit during the call, be nonthreatening and something magical happens. The prospect instinctively starts to trust you in spite of not knowing you and they can’t explain why.

Sales should never be about the salesperson. Rather it must be all about the prospect. Therefore the sales professional should work hard to create an environment where rapport flourishes and the prospect is completely comfortable even if your part becomes a Broadway play. Remember, it is not about you . . . it never was.


by Karl Schaphorst, President

402-403-4334 | www.karlschaphorst.sandler.com

Sandler Training is a global training organization with over three decades of experience and proven results. Sandler provides sales and management training and consulting services for small- to medium-sized businesses (SMBs) as well as corporate training for Fortune 1000 companies.  For more information, please contact Karl Schaphorst at (402) 403-4334 or by email at kschaphorst@sandler.com.  You can also follow his blog at karlschaphorst.sandler.com

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